Happy Secrets
Posted in Happy Minds on 11/16/2010 08:48 am by happymindsme 
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Happy Secrets
Thumball # 1 – Introduction by Happy Secrets
Everyone wants to be happy in life but only a few can say with satisfaction that they are truly happy. Happiness cannot be defined since it is a very subjective feeling, nor can it be quantified in terms of riches or possessions. It is a well documented fact that some of the poorest nations have the happiest people.
So what is it that gives us Happiness and how to go about getting it? There are many such things that we can do to have a feeling of happiness. Some of them are -
1. Be Satisfied With What You Have – It is well known that most people are not happy because they lack one or the other worldly procession. One must understand that it is simply not possible to have everything.
2. Try To Be Yourself – Be what you are, without trying to emulate someone or the other. Realize your own strengths and weaknesses and set yourself achievable targets.
3. Increase Your Potential And Expertise – The more talented you are the more you would be in demand which would give rise to self motivation and self esteem, which would give you happiness.
4. Follow Your Dreams – Most people are often not so happy because they give up their own desires and dreams to toe a line given by others. Following your own dreams is the biggest secret to happiness as it is something that you “want” to do.
5. Spirituality – To be content, it is important to have faith in the almighty. Hence, for many people, following the path of spirituality gives happiness.
6. Keeping Company With Happy People – Happiness is contagious. Hence, being in company of happy people brings happiness.
7. Good Health – Staying healthy naturally gives happiness. Hence it is important to exercise regularly and keep fit.
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Any happy marriages that people can share with us about their secrets. What’s the essence?
And I prefer to know from the people who had married for 25 years and
above and with kids as well. Thank you for sharing.
I haven’t been married for twenty five years (I’m only 21), but I’ve been married for five wonderful years, and I can promise you that I will be with him until the day he, or I, passes on. In my opinion, being married for 25 years with children is far from a yardstick for success.
I know a couple who’s been married for 27 years, has three beautiful kids, and to the outside world, everything’s peachy. Secretly, the woman has confessed she has never been in love with her husband. So, 25 years and children is not a yardstick for success, and no-matter-what, the same rules apply to any happy marriage, amount of time be damned.
Now, let me pre-face this by saying we’re NOT married legally. I’m anti-legal marriage for personal reasons but we had a personal ceremony with family and friends and have never considered ourselves any less married than anyone else.
Secondly, let me note that while I was 16 when we married, we’d been friends several years, he was a very close friend of the family, and I was very mature for my age. So, let’s leave age out of this. And get to the nitty gritty.
Our first three years were our worst. The first year, to be honest, was a nightmare. My depression was eating me alive worse and worse every day, my doctor was finally narrowing down exactly what was wrong with me (but not fixing it), and the list of things wrong with me were piling up. The disorders that are now slowly cripling me were just starting, and here we are as newlyweds trying to make a life together and here we are facing things like a 95% probability that I’ll never be able to bear our children, the possiblity that by the time I’m 25, I’ll be wheelchair bound, etc. It was NOT a good way to start a life together.
But this is also what made all the difference in our marriage and leads to the secret of why every single day, I fall more in love with this man. Why I believe we’ll be together forever — we’ve grown together, instead of apart.
The keys to any happy marriage are communication, mutual experiences, honesty, trust, and unconditional love.
Let’s start with unconditional love, because it’s a biggie.
When someone smiles at you, and it doesn’t mean “I’m happy to see you” to you, that’s a GOOD thing. When that smile says “You’re the reason I breathe”, that’s when you’ve got it made. A long time ago, a friend quoted this to me, and I think it’s one of the most awesome quotes for any married couple:
“It’s easy to die for the one you love. What is hard, is living for them.”
A lot of people freak, thinking this means you have to spend every waking moment revolving around this person, but that’s completely absurd. To live for someone is not to make them your world, but to make them a part of yours. To keep going when it gets tough because you know it’s worth it to see their smile again. To go the extra mile, even when you want to just fall over, because it’ll make them feel special. I believe that is the essence of true, unconditional love. When you can love someone enough that you would give of yourself freely and openly, forgive them when they may not deserve it, hold them when they’ve just been a complete and total jerk, etc. No marriage is perfect, but that unconditional love thing can really, REALLY do wonders for it.
Another one is serious communication. I know people who say they communicate with their partners, and then turn around and tell me how they can’t talk about a certain issue with their partner because “What if he leaves me!” or “He just won’t understand.”
Um, in that case, you really shouldn’t be with that person.
True communication is TRUSTING your partner to listen with an open heart to what you have to say. They may be hurt, they may not agree, but you are trusting that they will at least try to understand for your sake. The other side of that communication is being able to do just that — trying to understand, no matter how hard it may be.
That’s also where trust comes in. To be honest, trusting your partner not to shag someone isn’t NEARLY as hard as trusting them not to freak about your darkest secret, or to understand that maybe you want an open relationship. they may not be willing to give you that, but trusting them enough to share those feelings is a big deal.
As for mutual experiences — I don’t mean having very similar lives, I mean sharing in the things that interest your partner but may not interest you, and sharing those things together and growing together as a couple instead of individual people. Mutual experience can also be facing adversity together as a couple, instead of each person going it alone. oddly enough, hard times are GOOD for a relationship in the long run.
Sorry for the long post! Hope I could help.
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