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THE ART OF HAPPINESS: A HANDBOOK FOR LIVING: DALAI LAMA


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In The News: Guided Meditation

Many studies have been done on the effects of guided meditation and most of these studies have proven its effectiveness on calming a person’s mind and body. Guided meditation is not a new exercise and has been around for many years but since the recent notice of stressful and time consuming jobs and lives, many people have turned to it to help relieve their stress and to instruct them on how to deal with straining situations. Through the use of guided meditation practices, people who participate in these meditative sessions are finding more calm and quiet moments in their lives, even when they are not meditating.

Guided meditation and private meditation were developed in the Buddhist community about 2,500 years ago and have been used ever since. The Dalai Lama takes this line of guided meditation so seriously that he decided to meet with Western neuroscientists to help them test the effectiveness of the guided meditation exercises. The Dalai Lama stands by meditation by referring to it as a way that human beings express their ability to avoid suffering and find their own personal happiness. The Dalai Lama met with these scientists in a number of sessions in which they interviewed him and presented their research on the subject of guided meditation. He offered his opinions on the subject from his Buddhist point of view but also engaged in the scientists’ factual understanding of meditation and its effects. Although the Dalai Lama stands by his completely spiritual and meditative practices, he cooperated with the scientists and showed them that he understands the importance of science and research on the subject.

Guided meditation was shown to be effective at calming a person’s inner thoughts and sometimes relieving ailments such as migraines. By attempting to achieve the three levels of guided mediation, many people have found their limit of difficulty and what they need to work on to make their meditative session more intense. The meditating person must first work to achieve an external focus during a guided meditation session. This is the most basic type of meditation and the easiest form to achieve. In the external focus session, the person must concentrate on an object in the room while still paying close attention to his or her own body. The internal focus is a form of guided meditation that is found to be a little more challenging. In this form of meditation, the person must focus on occupying the mind with a mantra or another small but non-thinking task while concentrating solely on removing thoughts from the brain and relaxing the body. The unfocused form of guided meditation is the most challenging form and it is the form where the person meditating can go the deepest into the meditative state. In this state of meditation, the person focuses on nothing and keeps the mind completely silent.

People are finding the world of meditation is easy to become one with when they use the help of guided meditation. Many users can achieve their meditative goals and the meditative state of calm with guided meditation.

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Lhasa – Kathmandu Overland Tour

LHASA – KATHMANDU OVERLAND TOUR

This overland tour connects two old capital cities, Lhasa in Tibet and Kathmandu in Nepal. The tour begins in Lhasa and ends in Kathmandu. En route, you cross over several high mountain passes with spectacular mountain views, including those of the majestic Mount Everest, Cho Oyu, Makalu and Shishapangma.

This tour gives you an insight into the rich culture and history of Lhasa. Most popularly known as ‘Sunlight City’, Lhasa is regarded as the heart and soul of Tibet. It is the most sought after tourist destination in Tibet. As you drive across the Tibetan plateau, you can visit all the Tibetan monasteries, temples, monuments and important tourist sites. In Lhasa you can explore the Potala Palace, Sera Monastery, Norbulingka, Jokhang Temple, Drepung Monastery and the busy Barkhor Square.

This tour gives you an opportunity to discover the real Tibet and introduces you to the rich Tibetan culture, art and history. From the bustling old cities to the ancient villages and settlements, you get to observe Tibetan lifestyle at close quarters.

Lhasa’s Main Attractions

Potala Palace is situated at the west of old Lhasa, atop the “Moburi (Red) Mountain”. In 1994, the Potala Palace was declared the United Nations World Cultural Heritage site. It was originally built in the 640′s, during the reign of King Songstan Gampo. The 13-story palace stands 117 meters high and has over 1,000 rooms. Covering an area of 130,000 sq meters, the entire building is made of stone and wood. The palace is widely known for its treasures, which includes sculptures, murals, ancient Tibetan Buddhist scriptures, Buddha figures, antiques, and jewelry. These are of great cultural and artistic value. The Red Palace contains various chapels and mausoleums for previous Dalai Lamas. The White Palace contains the living quarters of successive Dalai Lamas and their tutors. The offices of the old Tibetan government and their assembly halls are also located here. The original Potala was destroyed in the 9th century, during the breakdown of the Tubo Kingship era. It was rebuilt during the reign of the 5th Dalai Lama and completed in the late 17th century.

Jokhang Temple is located in the centre of old Lhasa city. It was original built in 647 AD. It is said the site was chosen personally by the wife of King Songstan Gampo, the Tang Princess Wen Cheng. It was built by craftsmen from Tibet, China and Nepal and thus features different architectural styles. The Jokhang is the spiritual centre of Tibet and the holiest destination for all Tibetan Buddhist pilgrims. In the central hall is the Jokhang’ s oldest and most precious object-a sitting statue of Sakyamuni Buddha ,when he was 12 years old. It is a gilded statue adorned with many jewels, in an elaborate setting. Pilgrims have prostrated themselves in front of this statue for centuries.

Drepung Monastery lies in the west of Lhasa under Mt. Gambo Utse. Built in 1416, it is considered as one of the largest monasteries in the six principle monasteries of Gelu Sect. Drepung Monastery used to be the living palace of Dalai Lamas before the reconstruction of Potala palace. This magnificent monastery resembles a huge walled city. From its roofs, one can enjoy the scenic view of Lhasa city. As the most powerful of the “Gelukpa” monasteries, Drepung had seven colleges and, at its height, housed over 10,000 monks. It owns many splendid murals, elaborate statues and other rich treasures. A giant golden statue of Buddha “Jiangba Tongzhenma” sits near the precious conch shell. During the building of the foundation of Drepung, Tsong Khapa discovered a magical white conch shell with counter clockwise swirls, believed to be buried by the Sakyamuni Buddha. Tsong Khapa bestowed this religious treasure to Drepung, and it can still be seen today in the “Great Sutra Chanting Hall”.

Norbulingka is the Summer Palace of the Dalai Lama. Located in the west of Lhasa, Norbulingka was built in 1755.It covers an area of 46 acres, with 370 rooms of different sizes.

Barkhor Street is found in the heart of Lhasa. It means “a pilgrim’s inner circuit”, and is the oldest street in Lhasa. Barkhor Street is an essential pilgrim route. It bustles with activity and is always jam-packed with trades people. The market is “a must visit site” for souvenir-hunting tourists. Many people call the Barkhor “the window of Tibet” as it offers a typical reflection of Tibetan life. The old circumambulation circuit is always crowded with pilgrims. Here you will find people from all over Tibet.

Sera Monastery – Sera means “Hailstone” in Tibetan. Legend has it that hail stones rained while laying the foundation of this famous monastery. Sera was the last of the three principal Yellow Sect monasteries to be built in Lhasa. It was completed in 1419, under the supervision of Shaka Yeshe. Shaka Yeshe traveled to Beijing and as far as Mongolia to preach Buddhism. He was given the title “The Tutor of the Empire”, by the Ming Emperor, Xuan De. Many precious gifts were sent to Sera by the Chinese Emperors, many of which are kept well preserved and can be seen at Sera to this day. Sera comprises a great sutra chanting hall, a college and 32 sections. It once housed nearly 10,000 monks.

PEOPLE AND CULTURE

The Tibetans are classified as belonging to the Mongoloid family of people. They are probably descendents of a variety of nomadic tribes who migrated from the north and settled along sedentary cultivation of Tibet’s river valleys.

The Tibetans living within the borders of present day Tibet are easily identified by their distinctive dialects, social customs and dress. The Topas live in the highland regions (Lato and Ngari), the Tsangpas in the West Tibet (Tsang), the Upas live in central Tibet, the Horpas comes from the north (Nagchu/ Jangtang), the Kongpowas from the south, the Khampas live in the east, the Amdowa in the northeast, and the Gyarongwa in the extreme east.

In Lhasa, you will find some Tibetans speak a bit of English and are happy to have a chat with you. Travelers to Tibet inevitably find Tibetans to be friendly and possessing a great sense of humor. It is appreciated when you try and use Tibetan language when communicating with Tibetans. Religion is extremely important to the majority of Tibetans, and travelers should endeavor to respect their customs and beliefs. Always circumambulate Buddhist religious sites or monastery in a clockwise direction, and when in a monastery do not wear a hat, smoke or touch frescoes. In addition, refrain from climbing onto statues, mani stones or other sacred objects. Don’t photograph people without permission, and be aware that some locations prohibit photography without a fee.

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Art of Happiness, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Handbook for Living (Hardcover)


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An updated edition of a best-selling classic by the Nobel Peace Prize-winning Tibetan spiritual leader shares counsel on how to dedicate one`s life to the pursuit of happiness while drawing on Buddhist principles in order to overcome obstacles and find…

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Dalai Lama Buddism

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The World of Tibetan Buddhism (Paperback)


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Assisted by a foreword by actor Richard Gere, the Tibetan leader and winner of the 1989 Nobel Peace Prize explains in concise but lucid detail every facet of Tibetan Buddhism, addressing not only practicing Buddhists but readers interested in Eastern r…

The Dalai Lama: The Essence of Mahayana Buddhism (DVD)


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His Holiness Tenzin Gyatso, the 14th DalaiLama, delivers a discourse on the basic tenets of Buddhism in this English-language program, filmed before an inquisitive audience. The talk covers the basics of the Mahayana Path as the central nexus of wisdom…



 

Dalai Lama And Happiness

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Live in a Better Way: Reflections on Truth, Love, and Happiness Dalai Lama XIV/


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In Buddhism, causality is accepted as natural law. Causality means that there’s a relationship between two events, where one is the cause and the other is a direct consequence, or an effect, of the first.

The Dalai Lama explains in his book “The Art of Happiness – A Handbook for Life” that the best way to safeguard against undesirable events taking place is to make sure that the causal conditions that normally give rise to those events don’t arise. Similarly, if there’s an event that you would like to take place, then seek the causes and conditions that give rise to that event and replicate them.

In addition, Gunaratana-a Sri Lankan Buddhist monk-explains in his book “Eight Mindful Steps to Happiness” that the Buddha’s path is grounded in common sense and in careful observation of reality. The Buddha understood that if we look carefully at our lives we would realize that the choices we make lead to either happiness or unhappiness. And once we understand this principle thoroughly, we will be able to make good choices, because we want to happy.

When we understand that everything we think, say, or do is a cause, which will inevitably lead to some effect, we will naturally want to think, say, and do things which will lead to positive results. At the same time, we will avoid having thoughts, saying things, and doing things that will lead to negative results.

James Allen, author of the success classic “As a Man Thinketh”, has the following to say about the principle of causality:

“That he is the maker of his character, the molder of his life, and the builder of his destiny, he may unerringly prove, if he will watch, control, and alter his thoughts, tracing their effects upon himself, upon others and upon his life and circumstances, linking cause and effect by patient practice and investigation.”

Begin right now to trace the situations and events that are taking place in your life back to the actions and thoughts that originally led to them. Can you see how everything is as it should be based on the thoughts you’ve had in the past and the actions that you’ve taken as a result? Now ask yourself what are the results that you want in your life, and what are the causal conditions that need to take place so that those results will come into effect.

Written by Marelisa Fabrega. If you would like more information on James Allen’s famous book, read the blog post “As a Man Thinketh.”

Dalai Lama And Happiness
Being happy is simple. Why do we make it so hard to be happy?

“It is very important to generate a good attitude, a good heart, as much as possible. From this, happiness in both the short term and the long term for both yourself and others will come.”
Dalai Lama
Shawn-then let the celebration begin! Who can make you feel anything but you? Love begins in our own hearts.
skoosh- if we help others, we not only increase their happiness but also our own. If we suffer and refuse to be happy because of their suffering, we all suffer, and what is the point in that?
mcmindful-my mantra too. I like this mandala too. I found it on google images.
Thimmappa M.S.-I completely agree and so does Pooh…..
“Well,” said Pooh, “what I like best,” and then he had to stop and think. Because although Eating Honey was a very good thing to do, there was a moment just before you began to eat it which was better than when you were, but he didn’t know what it was called. ~A.A. Milne

Yes it is so simple but only when one has mastered the art of being simple, and that comes after taming the desire in you.


All You Ever Wanted to Know from His Holiness the Dalai Lama on Happiness, Life, Living, and Much More (Paperback)


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His Holiness the Dalai Lama describes himself as “a simple Buddhist monk.” However, to millions of people around the world, he embodies the highest human aspiration: to be happy.  His messages of compassion, altruism, …

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Joyful Resolutions Naturally Happen

Happy New Year! Are you having a great start to the New Year? Did you make New Year’s Resolutions this year?

There’s a wide range of responses to resolutions. Some people are energized by the clean slate of a new year and have countless ideas of what they’d like to do or improve. Others are content with the status quo and prefer not to rock the boat. Many people, disappointed by their unsuccessful track records with resolutions, may scoff at the process. What’s your take on resolutions?

Whether it’s exercising, eating healthy foods, or cutting back on caffeine, why is it that people so quickly become disillusioned with their New Year’s Resolutions? Would we all be better off simply not making resolutions at all?

I don’t think so. I think it’s important to honor our intentions. There’s often a lull after the holidays that invites us to slow down, pause, reflect on the past year, and dream of the year to come. We vow to make changes or at least entertain optimistic fantasies when there are things we want to improve in our lives. An oyster requires an irritating grain of sand in order to produce a pearl; likewise our dissatisfaction may be the catalyst for change. A new year gives us a chance for a fresh, new beginning and an opportunity for transformation.

But how do we go about creating change that will stick, come February, March, and even May? Most resolutions fail because they seem like a lot of hard work. It’s hard to be enthusiastic about something that’s a struggle. Take a different approach this year. Make resolutions that are fun, exciting, and make you happy. Go for an enticing outcome, but make sure the process of getting there is enjoyable. My theory is: joyful resolutions naturally happen.

We each have a built-in tool that can help us envision and successfully commit to joyful resolutions. It’s an internal compass that I call a Joy-o-meter”. It can tell you if you are beginning to steer off course, if you have completely jumped the tracks, or if you are travelling in the wrong direction. Your Joy-o-meter can guide you in making decisions about starting, stopping, or changing a particular course of action. Because we are hardwired for happiness, our Joy-o-meter always gives a true reading without ever needing to be recalibrated. Tap into the wisdom of your Joyometer by getting quiet and relaxed and then intuitively checking in to read your level of joy.

Ask your Joy-o-meter:

o On a scale from 1-10, how happy am I?

o How joyful would (Fill in the blank with whatever is in question.)_______________ make me?

o How happy would I be if I eliminated ___________?

o How happy would I be to start ___________?

o What could bring me more joy? o How happy would I be if I made this change?

In The Art of Happiness, the Dalai Lama teaches that being happy is not difficult. It’s a matter of discovering what makes you happy and then cultivating that in your life. The Joy-o-meter can be your inner guide. Have fun using this tool to create and stick to resolutions that magnify the joy in your life.

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Grace Durfee is a Professional Certified Coach, trainer, and speaker who works with busy professionals, small business owners, and career changers who want to achieve professional success while enjoying more balanced lives. She is the author of the book Balance with Grace: Celebrate the Kaleidoscope of Life (January 2008). To learn more and read her blog visit http://www.balancewithgrace.com

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The Dalai Lama's Book of Awakening


The Dalai Lama’s Book of Awakening



Words of inspiration from one of the world’s most beloved spiritual leaders His Holiness the Dalai Lama, the exiled spiritual leader of the Tibetan people, gives us practical ways to deal with suffering and create the happiness we seek, through his own down-to-earth interpretation of the Four Noble Truths – the very foundation of Buddhist teaching. This little book is perfect for anyone seeking wo…

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“You are too emotional,” is an accusation made by many people. As mankind’s understanding of the human psyche grows we are learning to appreciate, understand and use our emotions more effectively. We are now recognizing that, often, when one person accuses another of being “too emotional,” the accuser may be afraid of emotions. For one reason or another, the accuser has not developed what Daniel Goleman has called “Emotional Intelligence,” (1994). Many would agree that accusing another person of being “too emotional” is, at the least, not helpful and, at the most, shaming.

When a person is accused of being “too emotional,” two things happen; the first is disconnection. The flow of conflict is interrupted by an accusation that has little to do with the topic of the conflict. Both people were deeply engaged in a topic of common interest and both people were in a flow of exchanging of thoughts and emotions as they discussed, or argued, about a topic of interest. Conflict can increase intimacy. When one person suddenly withdraws, accusing the other of having too much emotion, intimacy is abandoned. The second thing that happens is that the person who has been accused of having too much emotion feels judged, shamed and blamed. When we are shamed, most of us will be flooded with emotions. Shame can make us feel desperate. When one person accuses another of being “too emotional,” a difficult situation has been made worse. The person who stands accused is now feeling a need to defend herself.

Many people have been victimized by those who are lacking emotional awareness and intelligence. The ability to be empathetic with another person is the foundation of good enough relationships. When an individual is unaware of his own emotions he will have difficulty empathizing with the emotions of another. It is through awareness of our own emotions that we can deeply understand and empathize with the emotions of another. During a conflict, when one person begins to have and express strong emotions, both people can remain engaged, if the other party can communicate that they have heard and, perhaps understand that person’s perspective. Expressing understanding of another person’s perspective is not “giving in” to that person. It is simply recognizing the individual’s right to their perspective. This is a conflict resolution skill of the highest degree. Self-awareness, coupled with the ability to understand and empathize with others, are highly valuable social skills.

People who are emotionally unaware often attain positions of power. Many still believe that the ability to be empathic is a sign of weakness. We know that power is not always healthy. Power has been abused by many throughout history. Judging and shaming others by labeling them “too emotional” is often a misuse of power that can be emotionally abusive. It is often an attempt to coerce others. Power without self-awareness and empathy can be dangerous.

Emotional reactivity and expression are best understood when placed on a continuum. Neither end of the continuum is wrong and there are shades of gray, or degrees of reactivity and expression to be considered. Some people are comfortable with high degrees of emotional reactivity and expression. Others are not. Most people fall somewhere in the middle. When two people in a relationship find they are at opposite ends of that continuum, the responsibility lies with both people to find ways to cope with the other persons level of expression or leave the relationship. If both people choose to work toward feeling comfortable and accepting of their partners level of expression, the relationship will have a chance of working.

Often, people are attracted to each other because of differences in emotional reactivity and expression. For instance, one person will enjoy another person’s expressions of joy, delight and happiness. And people come wrapped in a complete package of all the emotions to have and express. It is unrealistic to expect anyone to always have feelings of joy, delight and happiness. If a person is highly reactive and expressive of positive emotions, she will also probably be highly expressive of her feelings of anger, sadness or fear. No one can have one type of emotion most of the time. No one can be a “happy” person. Nor can they be an “angry” person. Emotions don’t work that way. Emotions give us information and none of them are right or wrong. Emotions, like blood, are always with us. Emotions occur according to whatever is going on around or within us in the moment.

Self-awareness, empathy and the ability to be attuned to others are the skills of relationship that can be honed throughout our lives. Each of these skills is worth a book and many articles and books have been written about them. I mentioned one in the opening paragraph, “Emotional Intelligence” by Daniel Goleman (1994). Recently written is “Emotional Awareness” by the Dalai Lama and Paul Ekman (2008). Others of value include “Healing Through the Dark Emotions; The Wisdom of Grief, Fear, and Despair” Miriam Greenspan (2004); “Mindfulness” Ellen J. Langer (1989); “The Developing Mind” Daniel J. Siegel (1999); “I Thought it was Just Me; Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame” Brene’ Brown 2007.

Anne is a Board Certified Registered art therapist and Licensed Professional Counselor. Anne has been studying human development and relationships for over 45 years. She has been successfully working with families, in various capacities, for over 20 years. Her private practice is in the Mt. Airy section of Philadelphia PA. She specializes in helping people recover from various types of trauma, difficult changes and loss. Anne has an unusual ability to connect with children and adolescents, along with their parents. Parenting is the most important job we ever do, yet no one shows us how to do it or gives us the support we need. Anne has successfully coached many parents through a variety of critical stages in their children’s lives. Annes greatest joy is helping people understand themselves and each other.

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Physical problem that prevents being a vegetarian?

I was reading book by the Dalai Lama, and he is saying how important it is to promote vegetarianism. But he states that he developed a physical condition that only permits him to be a vegetarian on alternating days. Does anyone know of what this might be, or is this just a cop-out by his holiness?
I’m not sure how this is relevant, but it was Dalai Lama Jetsun Jamphel Ngawang Lobsang Yeshe Tenzin Gyatso. The book was “Live in a Better Way – Reflections on Truth, Love, and Happiness.” BTW… Vegetarian encompasses a person’s diet, Vegan encompasses a person’s lifestyle.

It’s possible that the Dalai Lama may have something wrong with some aspect of his digestive system. The small and large intestine are responsible for absorbing nutrients such as vitamins, protein, carbohydrates, etc. If some one has problems absorbing, for example, protein, you may need to not be a vegetarian, like a friend of mine.

I have a friend who survived colon cancer. The doctors had to remove most of the large colon. Prior to the surgery, my friend had been a vegetarian for years. After, she tried to be a vegetarian, but her protein and iron counts were just to low. On advice from her doctor, she became a semi-vegetarian. She has to eat meat (mostly fish) and take iron pills for the rest of her life (she won’t resume eating red meat or poultry, would rather take iron pills). The doctor said that due to her physical condition, the protein found in meat (fish) is easier for her to absorb than that found in soy, dairy, or eggs.

Such people are few and far between. For most people, eating a vegetarian diet is healthy and easily provides more than enough protein. It’s more healthy, better for the planet, and better for animals.


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